Empowerment has to Start with Your Own Thinking
Empowerment has to start with your own thinking pattern, who we surround ourselves with, and where we want to go. Another important ingredient is how much self-confidence we have. Self-confidence really comes down to how much you believe in yourself and isn’t based on what someone else thinks. If you think you are beaten then you are and if you think you will succeed then you will. But is it that simple?
Let me begin with self-confidence that pesky thing that can get in our way. We are taught from a young age that self-confidence is based on how much we please people and how much they like us. This is false thinking because true self-confidence that is unwavering is based on how much you believe in you, which is improved based on your ability to succeed at the realistic goals you have set for yourself and that are in your control. You can achieve anything if you are willing to do things differently by using out of the box thinking.
Out of the box thinking requires you know what you want to achieve, have the knowledge to understand technology, and can be open minded about the process. Just let your mind relax and don’t throw any ideas out but instead write every one of them down. After you have a long list you can select a few good answers. If you can’t find the right technology, then surf the web and I am sure you can find answers. Don’t let anything prevent you from achieving your goal.
People are sometimes their own worse enemy because unconsciously we sabotage ourselves. It is how you think consciously and unconsciously that will determine your outcome to an extent. We displace our angry on to others for the wrong reasons, are disorganized, or are listening to the messages we have in our inner mind tape (self-talk) that has been placed there from pervious encounters. Sit down and think about the negative messages you have been carrying around inside your mind for years. Spend a day just listening to you, don’t try to change your thoughts, just be an observer, and after one day you might be shocked at the things you say to yourself. Start by taking out several small pieces of paper and write down all those negative thoughts separately, then let go of them in your mind, take out a trash can, and symbolically throw them away. Replace those negative thoughts with positive thoughts. Having a partner who can witness this will allow you to be more accountable to yourself and one other trusted friend.
It is important to surround yourself with people who support you but that doesn’t mean they always have to agree with you. In fact you will need people who will challenge your thinking. A variety of people in your life from different backgrounds and cultures, will help you succeed in your goals and in your life. Surround yourself with people who will empower you to succeed at your dreams.
Empowering yourself means building your self-confidence, looking at your own thinking, surrounding yourself with supportive people, and setting clear goals. You must take actions everyday to achieve your goal and empower yourself. As a person with a disability, my self-confidence has grown in part from the things I have had to overcome or learn to deal with differently.